In this episode, Kim sits down with eating disorder specialist Sarah Burney to unpack what's really going on beneath "food noise," body dissatisfaction, and chronic struggles with eating. This conversation moves beyond surface-level advice and into the deeper emotional, neurological, and relational drivers of disordered eating.

They explore why food is rarely the actual problem, how shame quietly fuels the cycle, and why changing your body never resolves the underlying distress. Sarah also clarifies common misconceptions around body dysmorphia versus negative body image, explains when professional support is warranted, and offers a grounded framework for helping both yourself and loved ones without reinforcing shame.

This episode is for anyone who feels consumed by food thoughts, stuck in body-based self-worth, or confused about where healing actually begins.

Guest: Sarah Burney
Licensed in CA, AZ, OR, and PA
burneytherapygroup.com

Timestamps

00:00 – What "food noise" actually feels like
02:31 – Stress eating, dopamine, and emotional regulation
03:54 – Food as self-soothing vs avoidance
05:06 – When food thoughts cross the line into needing support
05:26 – Medical vs psychological red flags
06:03 – How shame initiates and sustains disordered eating
07:19 – Why changing your body never solves the real problem
08:21 – Is body image ever the root issue?
09:00 – Core beliefs, trauma, and self-worth
10:15 – Why success and appearance don't fix internal distress
11:15 – What treatment actually looks like
12:11 – Body dysmorphia vs negative body image (important distinction)
14:12 – Separating self-worth from self-improvement
15:35 – Being treated differently based on appearance and why it matters
17:18 – Why reaching the "ideal" body doesn't bring relief
21:04 – The belief underneath "I need to look different"
24:33 – Disordered eating vs diagnosable eating disorders
25:26 – Why eating disorders are not about food
26:48 – How loved ones can help without causing harm
29:47 – What to look for in an eating disorder specialist

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