E432 Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan and Josh Tomeoni In this powerful episode of Inner Voice, Dr. Foojan Zeine sits down with Josh Tomeoni, founder of Ex-Derelict and author of The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild. Josh brings a rare blend of lived experience and professional insight as a 19-year fiduciary financial planner turned men’s coach, working with high-performing men navigating divorce, identity loss, and major life transitions. The conversation opens with a deep exploration of how divorce and trauma place every person at a crossroads—a choice between the path of health or the path of destruction. Josh challenges common gender stereotypes, explaining that while men and women don’t choose different paths, they often cope in different ways. Men tend to numb through work, sex, substances, or avoidance, while women may rely on relationships or even therapy in ways that can become ineffective if true growth stalls. As the episode unfolds, Dr. Foojan and Josh explore neuroscience-based differences in emotional processing, the role of culture and attachment, and how comfort zones—work for men, relationships for women—can either support healing or quietly sabotage it. They emphasize that healing requires active engagement, accountability, and results—not passive coping or endless talking without progress. Josh shares his personal story of divorce, spiritual awakening, and the moment he realized that avoiding pain only made it return stronger and more destructive. This realization shaped both of his books and his mission to help men rebuild wealth, masculinity, purpose, and legacy in their second act of life. In the second half of the episode, Josh introduces his latest book, The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild., a powerful blend of memoir and practical guidance designed to help men integrate mental, emotional, spiritual, and financial clarity. Rather than promoting surface-level fixes like money or physical appearance, Josh focuses on identity reconstruction, intentional masculinity, and purposeful living after loss. The conversation concludes with a profound reminder: the only way forward is through the pain. Avoiding discomfort only guarantees deeper suffering later. Growth, healing, and strength come from facing hard truths directly—and doing the work when it matters most. ⏱️ CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS (CLICKABLE) 00:00 – Welcome to Inner Voice with Dr. Foojan 02:26 – Meet Josh Tomeoni: Ex-Derelict & Men’s Coach 05:52 – Divorce from the Male Perspective 07:14 – Spiritual Awakening After Divorce 08:30 – Numbing Pain Through Sex, Substances & Avoidance 10:29 – Why Men Feel Alone After Divorce 12:02 – The Traps Men Fall Into During Divorce 13:04 – Do Women Heal Faster Than Men? A Real Debate 15:52 – Health Path vs. Destruction Path After Trauma 17:36 – When Therapy or Work Becomes a Crutch 20:27 – Workaholism, Relationships & Hidden Addictions 24:29 – Neuroscience: How Men & Women Process Trauma 27:17 – Culture, Custody & Financial Identity After Divorce 30:02 – Comfort Zones: Work for Men, Relationships for Women 32:03 – Healthy vs. Unhealthy Connection & Problem-Solving 33:29 – Josh’s First Book: Divorce Traps Men Must Avoid 35:15 – The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild. 36:47 – Why Men Lose Identity After Divorce 38:11 – Reclaiming Masculinity, Purpose & Legacy 40:16 – Masculine & Feminine Balance in Relationships 42:08 – Why Polarity Matters in All Relationships 44:18 – Final Truth: Growth Only Comes Through Pain 45:22 – Where to Find Josh & Get the Free Divorce Book 🔗 CONNECT WITH JOSH TOMEONI 🌐 Website: https://www.thederelict.com 📸 Instagram: @JoshTheDerelict #InnerVoicePodcast #JoshTomeoni #DrFoojanZeine #DivorceRecoveryForMen #MensMentalHealth #Masculinity #MensCoaching #RebuildingAfterDivorce #SecondActMen #HighPerformingMen #MensHealing #DivorceAndIdentity #SpiritualAwakening #MensPurpose #ExDerelict