Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy.

In this episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, I sit down with my wife, Kailee, to talk about my recent Kentucky hunting trip, how it tested our anxiety after a tough year, and what it showed us about where Wyatt is right now as a non-speaking autistic child. We walk through what it felt like for me to leave, how Kailee held things down at home, how our two Great Pyrenees puppies pushed our whole family to spend more time outside, and what happened when we finally turned off Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and changed Wyatt’s environment. We talk about dysregulation, co-regulation, sleep struggles, the mental health side of special needs parenting, and the small risks that led to big wins for our whole family, including Jesse. If you are an autism parent who feels stuck, tired, or scared to change anything that “kinda works,” this one is for you.

• Healthy hobbies like hunting or chess can actually make parents more present at home, because they force you to prepare well, reset, then come back ready to show up for your family.
• After a really hard season with grief, anxiety, and medical setbacks, this Kentucky trip became a test for both of us, and it reminded us that we really are getting stronger.
• Wyatt had a long stretch of being very dysregulated, especially around TV, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, and the remote, and it started to feel scary and hopeless again.
• There is a real difference between true happiness and dysregulation that looks “happy” on the outside, and parents usually feel that difference in their gut.
• When we finally shut off Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and held the line, Wyatt made a huge 180: more present, more playful, more connected, and way less destructive noise and behavior.
• Breaking his old screen loops, including the Kindle, opened the door to new interests like Frosty the Snowman, toys he had ignored, and more creative play, just like any other kid.
• Co regulation is real: when we are exhausted, hopeless, and under slept, our kids feel it, and when we change the environment and our energy, it helps them settle too.
• Our Great Pyrenees pups brought structure, protection, and a reason to get outside every day, which helped both us and the kids with stress and overstimulation.
• Every person in the house matters, including neurotypical siblings and parents, and sometimes what is best for the autistic child is also what is best for the whole family.
• Small risks, like canceling a big trip or turning off a “safe” show, can feel terrifying, yet they can be the doorway to progress, peace, and a more hopeful autism home.

If you heard yourself in this conversation, I want to invite you to look around your home and pick one thing to change in your child’s environment this week. It might be a show, a toy, a schedule, or even your own hobby that you have refused to pick back up. Give yourself permission to take a small risk and see what opens up for your autistic child, for your other kids, and for your own mental health.

If you want to talk more about this, or you need encouragement around autism, co regulation, or your own health and fitness as a caregiver, email me at tommy@spectrumincamouflage.com or visit spectrumincamouflage.com to find all the episodes and links to my social media. Kailee and I are also partnering as First Form Legionnaires, so if you are a parent or caregiver who wants to get healthier in the middle of all this, reach out and we will walk that road with you.

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