Ever notice how we sometimes become the architect of our own heartbreak? Not on purpose — never on purpose — but through the tiny choices, old patterns, and quiet fears that sneak in and take the wheel. In this episode, we unpack the uncomfortable truth: sometimes the person wounding us… is us.

I’m talking about self-sabotage disguised as “staying safe.”

About shrinking because someone once told you your voice was too loud.

About dating people who feel familiar, not healthy.

About numbing instead of naming what hurts.

We’ll wander into the roots of these patterns — how trauma trains us to brace for impact, how the nervous system wires itself for survival instead of joy, and why it’s so hard to accept good things without waiting for the other shoe to drop.

But we’re not stopping there.

We’re also going to talk about how to interrupt the spiral.

How to break the old agreements you made with pain.

How to show up for the version of you that’s tired of reliving the same story.

Because healing isn’t perfection — it’s honesty. And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit the ways you’ve been hurting yourself… and choose differently.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” — this episode is your sign you’re not broken. You’re human. And you’re learning.

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