In this episode of Strings Attached: Surviving the Narcissist, we explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic families — the enabler parent, often called the “good parent.”

Many survivors grow up recognising the narcissistic parent as the obvious source of harm. But the deeper emotional wound can come from the parent who seemed kinder, safer, and more loving — yet didn’t protect you from the abuse.

This dynamic creates what many survivors describe as the “good parent wound” — a complex mix of love, loyalty, grief, and emotional neglect.

In this conversation, we unpack:

• Why the enabler parent often stays silent in narcissistic family systems
• How emotional neglect can occur even when love is present
• The confusing loyalty bind survivors feel toward the “safer” parent
• How childhood parentification and trauma bonding develop
• Why this wound can shape adult relationships and attachment patterns
• How to begin healing the inner child after narcissistic abuse

If you’ve ever thought:

"But they loved me… so why does this still hurt?"

This episode gently explores that question.

Because healing from narcissistic abuse often means understanding not only the narcissistic parent — but the family system that allowed the harm to continue.

Your experience is valid, and you’re not alone.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Good Parent Wound

01:04 The Complexity of Loving an Unprotective Parent

02:07 Personal Stories of Unprotected Childhoods

03:12 Why Good Parents Might Fail to Protect

04:11 The Impact of Trauma Bonds and Enmeshment

06:24 Understanding the Deepening of the Wound

08:28 Hope and Disappointment in Parental Protection

10:50 How the Good Parent Wound Affects Adult Relationships

12:14 Recognizing Old Patterns in New Relationships

13:23 Guilt, Loyalty, and the Survivor's Journey

14:34 Healing Steps: Validation and Inner Child Reparenting

15:52 Building a New Support System

16:20 Closing Remarks and Resources