8.) About blame; it's about responsibility.

When we dive into the depths of ‘why’ we get numerous reasons, but it usually comes down to conditioning, or how you were raised. This thoroughly gives us someone to blame, often our parents. Once we accept this modality of thinking, we’ll always find someone to blame because that’s how our brain has been wired. This leads to numerous excuses.

Stoic life coaching focuses on responsibility. While you may have experienced a traumatic event or bad childhood that developed limiting beliefs, it’s your responsibility to heal. We can’t control triggers, but we can control the awareness of triggers and develop a plan to respond to them in a more healthy manner.

Once all excuses and blame begins to stop, change becomes a possibility. 

9.) Positivity; focuses more on reality

Some life coaching would have us walking around like Ned Flanders, smiling all the time, putting on a happy face even when things are falling apart. We need to bust that mindset and come out of positivity and into reality. We don’t need false hopes and expectations in our life. That only leads to frustration, depression, or a funk.

Some dangers of positivity can include…

● Avoiding the negative things in life.

● Attempting to fake being happy.

● Refusing to look at the inevitable situations of life.

● Fake affirmations usually have the opposite effect.

● Sometimes we need to consider the worst-case scenario to be better prepared.

● Can often become detached from reality.

● Sets up the idea that we should be happy constantly.

10.) Lifetime scope of work; It’s about creating habits that produce success.

There are some modern therapeutic modalities out there where the goal is to keep you in the process for a lifetime. If you get well, they lose their money. This sets up a codependency; if you get well, you’ll stop paying. Coaching has an end of scope.

Stoic life coaching focuses on short-term behavior of life and deals with core issues. When we begin to change our behaviors and plant different seeds, change happens, mindsets change, and we get better results.