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The fear of rejection, being too nice, and never making a move…

If you’ve ever overthought your way into loneliness, struggled with ghosting, or felt stuck in “nice guy syndrome”, this episode is for you.

Corey sits down with dating coach and author Chris Bates to break down modern dating for men: why masculine leadership matters, how to create intimacy without being manipulative, and why being radically yourself is the real dating superpower.

Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or just done pretending to be who she wants, this conversation will shift the way you date forever.

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📍 Timestamps:
00:00 – Why men fail at modern dating
01:30 – Fear, analysis paralysis & vulnerability
03:00 – Creating non-negotiables vs outcome obsession
06:00 – Childhood wounds shaping attraction
08:20 – Hookup vs partnership mindset
10:45 – Dating horror story: when loneliness picks your dates
14:00 – Nervous system mismatch: why she felt off
16:00 – Signs you’re not confident or assertive
18:00 – Masculine leadership & Dom-ish polarity
20:00 – When leading creates tension (and when it doesn’t)
22:00 – Gamifying dating without being toxic
24:30 – Why adult play is the spice of life
27:00 – Dating as emotional gym reps
30:00 – Sh*t tests, authenticity & masculine frames
34:30 – Avoiding the friend zone through intimacy
37:00 – Emotional honesty vs emotional manipulation
42:00 – Corey’s story: attention, ego, and loss
45:00 – Chris’s story: depression, self-worth, and healing
47:30 – Post-divorce dating & leading with truth
52:00 – Radical transparency as a masculine edge
54:00 – No date is wasted — every one is a rep
56:00 – Feminine presence is healing, not validation
59:00 – The nice guy reframe: from pleasing to honest service
1:03:00 – Leadership, purpose & emotional safety in dating

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Most high-performing men lead their business like a king but feel lost at home.
In this episode, Jon Vroman (Front Row Dads) and I unpack the silent cost of masculine burnout and what it really takes to lead your family with presence, clarity, and calm.

We dive into:
• Nervous system regulation for fatherhood
• Why kids don’t need a “perfect” dad—just a present one
• How men unknowingly sabotage intimacy by overworking
• Real masculine leadership (without burnout)

Whether you’re a dad, husband, or future father figure, this convo will flip your lens on what power looks like in a family.

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⏱ Timestamps

00:00 Masculine leadership starts at home
01:15 Why dads feel more pressure than ever
03:10 Jon’s burnout story: business wins, family disconnect
05:48 What children actually need from their father
07:24 Emotional safety over financial security
10:30 Nervous system = leadership foundation
12:40 Why “nice guys” fail at fatherhood
14:55 When work becomes your escape
18:12 How to repair after screwing up as a dad
21:34 Leading your relationship through conflict
25:08 Masculine embodiment and trauma
28:03 Front Row Dads mission
30:10 What Jon wishes more men knew

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Most men say they want purpose… but they’re actually addicted to struggle.

In this episode, I sit down with JR Harvey founder of Kings Community and one of the most grounded, embodied mentors for men in the game to unpack what’s really keeping men stuck.

We go deep on:
• Why “managing pain” isn’t healing
• The nervous system cost of constantly performing
• Why men lead best when they stop trying to be liked
• The addiction to helping others as a way to avoid yourself
• And the real reason your relationship or leadership keeps collapsing

This conversation isn’t for the guys looking for more mindset hacks.

This is for the men who are ready to actually feel, lead with clarity, and build something sacred from a solid nervous system not from pressure and pretend power.

If you’re over the noise, stuck in your head, or feel like the leader version of you is hiding this one will flip the switch.

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Kings Community → https://www.instagram.com/kings__community/


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⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Intro – Meet JR Harvey
01:12 Why Most Men Are Addicted to Pressure
03:45 Nervous System vs Nervous System Games
06:30 The Illusion of “Helping” While Avoiding Yourself
09:01 Leading Without Performing
12:20 What’s Under Your Need to Fix
15:10 Why “Doing The Work” Can Be a Trap
18:02 Sex, Shame, and Self-Betrayal
22:49 Building Brotherhood From Authenticity
25:50 The Real King Energy Men Are Missing
29:30 Final Words for the Men Playing Small

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