Creating purpose and meaning

So many men are just going through the motions, working a 9 to 5 job they hate, with no passion or purpose in life. This lack of purpose shows up inside every area of life.

The signs of lack of purpose are…

● Living a life you don’t want to live

● Feeling stuck inside of habits and routines

● Feeling like you are in a rut

● A gnawing sense of incompleteness and or missing something 

● Seeking to escape life through addictions and sedatives

● Not feeling any feeling of contentment and satisfaction

● You are looking to a future day for everything to change

10. Judgements and opinions

Our own personal judgements are what causes us pain. The Stoic philosophy has a corner on this market of really dismantling these stories and getting established inside of wisdom. We walk you through how to do this, both for yourself and others.

Examples of assumptions are…

1. You don't get the promotion at work, so you assume the boss is out to get you. 2. You assume most people are bad at heart, so don't trust anyone you meet. 3. Your partner isn't very talkative lately, so you assume they are angry with you.

4. Someone does something that hurts you, and you begin to assume why they did it.

These judgements look like…

● Assuming to know why

● Thinking we know the motives of another

● Trying to fill in the blanks with incomplete information

● Jumping to conclusions that are a stretch

● Believing from a one-sided perspective

● Hide behind their version of the story

11. Expressing emotions

Because of the stigma, men have a hard time saying how they feel. They tend to hold it in and then blow up. We have to stop holding on to pain like a ticking time bomb.

Suppression is all about pretending that you are not …

● Angry

● Sad

● Frustrated

● Disappointed

● Discouraged

● Out of control

● Fearful

Denying these things doesn't make them disappear.

12. Responsibility

We must come out of the realm of victimhood and begin to accept responsibility as the creator of our own lives.

Signs of lack of responsibility...

● Excuses for everything

● It's everyone else's fault - Consistent blaming of others or circumstances 

● Complaining about the condition of your life

● Broke all the time

● Procrastination

● Living for pleasure

● Feeling the need to be rescued

● Feeling powerless or a lack of control

● Feel like the world is out to get you

● Love the sympathy you receive from others

13. Relationships

Men have problems with relationships. It breaks down to an intimacy problem, a communication problem, and an overall becoming one problem. Men sometimes see their relationship with their significant other as separate, when it should be as one. Signs of relationship issues…

● Unforgiveness & resentment is growing

● Sex is few and far between

● Conversations are very surface level and they never go deep

● Uninterested in each other's life

● Keep distracted through excessive entertainment

● Start losing their cool often

● Being excessively nitpicky and starting to pick at each other through sarcasm 

● Not willing to cocreate any solution to fix any problems

● Stay at the bar or work to avoid being home