Seneca said, “The great blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach, but we shut our eyes, and like people in the dark, we fall foul upon the very thing we search for, without finding it”. This is the greatest reality men are facing. We all have the greatest blessings on the inside; the talent, skills, and resources are inside us. The problem is: They’ve been covered by lies, manipulation, limiting beliefs, and ultimately by our conditioning. These things need to be rediscovered. As a Stoic life coach, we need to come alongside them and help them to understand that they have everything they need to be successful inside their lives.

We did a poll and below are the 13 difficulties men are struggling with. These 13 struggles will give you clarity into what's going on in your client's life.

1. Demasculinization

This is something that is in full force inside today’s society. It also comes from lack of male mentors inside of men's lives, fatherless homes, neglectful fathers, and being taught strictly by women. Men learn how to become men by other men. I never really knew what manhood was until another man began to mentor me and speak into my life.

When all the men in your life are losers, It's really hard to begin to navigate manhood successfully. Many men are becoming father’s before they know what it means to be a man.

Here are some stats, so we can thoroughly understand the extent of this problem.

● An estimated 24.7 million children (33%) live absent their biological father.

● Of students in grades 1 through 12, 39 percent (17.7 million) live in homes absent their biological fathers.

● According to 72.2 % of the U.S. population, faithlessness is the most significant family or social problem facing America.

● Children from fatherless homes are 2 times more likely to drop out of school. 

2. Selfishness

Many men become consumed with their own self interests. This is where they only begin to focus on their own comfort, pleasure and overall well-being.

Here are some signs of selfishness.

● Their desires are the only thing that matters.

● They are going to get what they want, even if someone else gets hurt. 

● Displaying controlling and manipulating behavior.

● Doing favors only to gain what they want.

● Trying to get everyone around them to conform to their will.

● Using other people, then discarding them when they become empty and can no longer give.

● They try to center your life around them