High-conflict exes, clashing house rules and an ours baby — today’s episode goes deep into the reality of stepfamily life. If you’re a stepmum feeling overwhelmed, anxious or alone, this one will speak straight to you.

Katie talks with Jane (name changed), a stepmum navigating secrecy for safety, court cases, three stepchildren, and a new baby, all while trying to build a stable home anchored in values and routines. Jane shares how belonging grows slowly, how she built trust through small consistent cues (hair plaits, dinners together, practical help), and how she learned to hold boundaries without absorbing the emotion of hostile messages.

They explore loyalty binds, two-home rules, the pressure of a contact schedule that takes every weekend, and the emotional load of loving someone with a complicated history.

In this episode:

• Loving your partner and the past they carry
• Secrecy, safety and contact from a distance
• Gradual attachment to stepchildren
• Belonging cues (plaits, shared meals, helping)
• Clashing values across two homes
• Living by a custody schedule + protecting couple time
• Boundaries with a hostile ex
• Sharing hard truths with kids
• Welcoming an ours baby + forming new identity

Perfect for:
Stepmums in high-conflict situations • overwhelmed by instability • new stepmums • anyone struggling with boundaries, anxiety or slow-growing attachment.

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