💬 Episode Summary

This week, Ciara gets real about the “soft girl era” and how it’s slowly turned from a gentle reminder to rest… into another aesthetic to perform. From the matcha mornings to the curated calm, she unpacks how the pursuit of peace has become yet another form of pressure and how to get back to real softness.

Through her own story of craving presence over performance, Ciara invites listeners to explore what true softness actually looks like, not the kind that can be captured in a reel, but the kind that lives quietly inside of us.

If you’ve ever caught yourself performing peace instead of practicing it, this one’s for you.

🌸 In This Episode

You’ll hear Ciara talk about:

• The fine line between peaceful living and performative peace

• Why “soft girl” culture sometimes feeds burnout instead of healing it

• How we traded hustle culture for beige burnout (yes, she said it!)

• The difference between chasing softness and becoming it

• Why true softness is emotional maturity and not a mood board

• How to return to a rhythm that feels safe, grounded, and sustainable

🧘🏽‍♀️ Key Takeaway

Real softness isn’t a vibe, it’s a rhythm.

It’s not something you buy or post.

It’s the way you breathe before you respond, the way you rest before you burn out, and the way you choose peace when chaos invites you to perform.

🪞This Week’s Challenge

Find one small way to practice real softness without buying, posting, or performing it.

✨ Let yourself rest before you crash.

✨ Respond with understanding instead of defense.

✨ Breathe, stretch, pray, or sit in silence. For you, not the feed.

💌 Connect with Ciara

Follow along on Instagram:

@choosingciara | @choosingher.pod

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