We all argue—but most of us were never taught how to actually repair after a fight. Without proper repair, relationships suffer death by a thousand papercuts, with every unresolved hurt piling up over time.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the four essential steps to repairing after conflict—without defensiveness, blame, or another round of the same argument. You’ll learn:

Why conflict isn’t the problem (but lack of repair is)

When not to try and fix things (hint: when you're still heated)

The exact words to use for a repair conversation that works

The biggest mistakes we make in making up—and how to avoid them

If you want to stop walking on eggshells and start actually moving forward after fights, this one’s for you.

Ever feel like you and your partner are stuck in the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone. Conflict is a natural and necessary part of any relationship - but the way we handle it makes all the difference.

In this episode, I explore why we argue, what we’re really fighting about (hint: it’s not just the dishes or being late), and how to navigate conflict in a way that strengthens your connection instead of tearing it down. I break down the hidden dynamics at play, the most common mistakes we make when tensions rise, and how to move from gridlock to understanding.

Fighting doesn’t mean your relationship is broken—it means you care. Tune in to learn how to make your conflicts work for your relationship, not against it.

Resources:

https://www.afterinlove.com/

https://www.instagram.com/afterinlovetherapy/

Erectile difficulties happen to so many penis owners, yet it’s still one of the most misunderstood and anxiety-inducing challenges in the bedroom. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons behind erection struggles—beyond just physical causes—and explore the psychological, relational, and emotional factors that play a huge role.

We’ll cover:

Why erectile issues are not just about aging or testosterone

The mind-body connection—how anxiety can be the biggest erection killer

How to talk to your partner about it without shame or pressure

Practical, science-backed ways to rebuild confidence and pleasure

Whether this is something you’ve personally faced or you’re supporting a partner through it, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on—and what you can do about it. My hope is this will take the fear out of the conversation and bring connection back into your bedroom.

Resources:

My website https://www.afterinlove.com/

Lori Brotto's meditations https://www.loribrotto.com/mindfulness-recordings