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The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident

著者: Mark Manson
ナレーター: Fleet Cooper
再生時間: 1 時間 54 分
カテゴリー: 洋書, Self Development

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あらすじ・解説

Everyone knows confidence when they see it; but seemingly no one can actually describe what goes into it or how to get it. The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident is an unconventional way of looking at one of the most basic and obvious human traits and what one can do to gain a little more of it without feeling like a phony. Laughter included.

©2013 Mark Manson (P)2013 Audible Inc.

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  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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  • Anthony A.
  • 2014/01/03

A More-Than-Pleasant Surprise

Anything with "The Nerd's Guide to" in the title always stokes my curiosity because I'm a major one. There were a couple of doubts that voiced themselves when I was considering buying this title, including the brevity of the recording and the fact that anything with "Confident" in the title is probably no more than a hyped-up pep talk, but alas, I decided to buy it anyway because, hey, it's only five bucks!

I was blown away, in a good way, by the ingenuity, practicality, simplicity, and impact that this author's writing had on me. I've just finished the book, so time will tell as to whether its writings make a long-term impact on my life, but if the tangible results are as impressive as the subjective conceptual amazement that I experienced while listening to this book, then this will prove to be the most life-changing books per-minute of any to which I've ever listened.

The author has an extremely entertaining and witty way of putting things that guys (at least I) deal with every day and offers--without bull--real ways to deal with it and change it (if change is actually what's called for). I'm a huge fan of the sarcasm-laden way in which he explains the foolproof way to make your life suck as much as possible, opening your eyes with every bullet point. The outro to the book is worth listening to once a day, every day, where he tells the sad story of most guys' normal mode of thinking and how, no matter what they have *going* for them, they always find a way (and when I say "they," I mean "I" also) to envy the next guy rather than have true appreciation for what they've already got.

Mark has sucker-punched me in the brain in the funniest way possible with this book, and I would (and will) highly recommend this book, and find and sign up for the author's blogs.

  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
  • ナレーション
    3 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
  • Anony Me
  • 2017/09/27

How was this even published? It’s not geared towards ‘nerds’ at all.

Let me start out by saying that I may not be his target demographic. Clearly his target audience doesn’t include anyone who isn’t a) first world AND college educated might I add, b) middle to upper class, since ‘be grateful since if you’re listening to this it means you will never experience true poverty...’ c) from a healthy(ish?) two-parented family (or with parents and family at all), and d) own a car and television. Yes, because apparently we all have those.

He specifically hit those bullet points. In his chapter ‘shut up and he grateful’. Right out the gate. You see, we all fit that ideal, and we just don’t appreciate enough what privileged educated kids we are! If I were more appreciate of these things, I’d be ever so happy! What a revelation. Wow. I feel so enlightened!

Lord knows when a book starts out telling me to ‘shut up and be grateful’ for the parents it assumes I have since they smother me because they care, To shut up and be grateful for the CAR and the TV and the amenities it assumes that, of course, I must have, For the college education that clearly if I’m listening to this audiobook, I have. When a book starts out like that, the target demographic must be quite narrow, since apparently the definition of ‘nerd’ isn’t as all inclusive across socioeconomic lines as previously thought. It can’t be talking to anyone without parents, without a car or a college education, without reliable steady income, just. Without. In the first five minutes this book managed to undermine my confidence in what I do have, in what I can be proud of, by rubbing my nose in what I don’t while declaring I should be thankful for my privileges. I think I’ll find my confidence elsewhere, thanks.

And yes I know this book might be targeting the stereotype of ‘special snowflake’ millennial. The ones who got trophies just for attending, and who require safe spaces in all social venues free of ‘triggers’ they manifested by browsing reddit and getting PTSD by proxy. Yeah, I get that. However, don’t write a book about confidence building for nerds if it’s not really for ‘nerds.’ That’s not what a nerd is.

  • 総合評価
    2 out of 5 stars
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    3 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
  • Cynthia
  • 2014/02/17

For under 30 straight men. Maybe.

I downloaded Mark Hanson's "The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident" (2013) right before heading off for a day trip to Mt. Baldy. By the time I realized I was so totally NOT the target audience for this book, I had no signal and couldn't download a different book for the drive - so I listened anyway.

I'm not a recent male college grad with self esteem issues on my second or third real job, trying to get laid by a woman in 3 dates or less, as cheaply as possible. I am a straight woman, and I've dated more than one man who has (intuitively) followed Hanson's advice. Dated them once, and definitely no sex. Maybe a polite peck on the cheek.

Not that some of Hanson's advice isn't really good, because it is. Have varied interests. Don't compromise ethical or moral beliefs to date a woman. Don't use time worrying about why someone doesn't want to spend time with you or trying to get them interested - find someone who doesn't waste your time. Adjust your language so you don't mistake your (often temporary) feelings for what you are. Good hygiene is a necessity.

What doesn't work that Hanson advises is being a c**** a** that only talks about himself and his interests. Unless you happen to do something really, really, interesting (maybe you've discovered a brand new energy source that will also solve the drought? You work for JPL/CalTech and just discovered life on another planet?), there has to be give and take. Quite frankly, any girl that doesn't want to share at least a few things about herself is just shining you on to get the date over with, doesn't want you to know anything about her, and will never return your calls; or she has serious self esteem issues of her own. And if some girl does go to bed with you, worry about what she wants, not just what you are going to get out of it. Have some pride in what you do.

According to Hanson, "Some people think I'm an idiot" (from his website). I don't think he's a COMPLETE idiot, just a partial one.

  • 総合評価
    3 out of 5 stars
  • ナレーション
    4 out of 5 stars
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    3 out of 5 stars
  • Teresa
  • 2014/04/01

Be yourself.

I didn't think this was as bad as all the reviewers were going on about. Yes, the focus was more for adult males, but I gleaned some useful information from it. But hey it was free so I'm not complaining. I usually give free audio's about 10 minutes and if they don't jive with me I delete and move on and I finished this one. Thanks audible for the freebie.

  • 総合評価
    2 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
  • Florida Mama
  • 2014/02/20

Profanity and Shock-Value Content, But Instructive

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

I think the narration suited the content very well. However, I absolutely didn't expect the f-bombs and other profanity in a self-help book. An autobiography, comedy, or fiction... perhaps, but not with this. I identify as a nerd, but I'm less likely to identify with this book than might a 20-something male with socialization issues.

In short, you can absolutely get nuggets of value from this book, but you have to shift through a bit of angst-y window dressing to get there.

What could Mark Manson have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

I didn't feel like Manson understood his topic as it applies to women, nor did he make much effort to reach out to them.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Irritation, but also genuine admiration for a few very good observations that I'd love to deliver to my own boys... through the Mom filter.

Any additional comments?

Some great advice, but not what I expected based on the title alone. I am recommending this book to friends, but with the caveat that they understand what they're getting.

  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
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  • John Hayes
  • 2014/02/19

Depressing, Foul-Mouthed Rambling on Selfishness

You shouldn't waste your money, time, or mood. Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" if you need confidence.

  • 総合評価
    4 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
  • Linda
  • 2014/02/18

Witty, entertaining, and makes sense

I would absolutely recommend this if you struggle at all with a confidence level, something we all do at some time. Or in figuring out who you are. It does not tell you who you are or even HOW to be confident. It tells you the things that influence people's lives and make them see themselves and others in various lights, which help you pin point what in your own life you might want to look at and change. It is also amusing, its not dry, wake me up when its over, but light and serious at the same time. You will actually hear what he is saying and if you listen you can make changes and see differences in your life.

  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
  • Harvey
  • 2014/02/21

do not wast your time

As other reviewers have noted, this book is geared to the 18-30 male. He has a few interesting insights. Given the shortness of the books, those insights are still too few and far between. Much of it is simply ramblings of a blogger with all the negative connotations intended. The author is way too concerned about sex and does expound crudely for no apparent reason. Mr Manson is clearly confident and happy with his sexual prowess, but I do not think he will really help anyone gain confidence and is not even funny.

  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
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    3 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
  • Melzor Allen
  • 2019/11/23

Very narrow perspective and few insights

Disclaimer: I did not listen to the entire book. Made it maybe 1/4 of the way before turning it off in irritation.

As many other reviews have said in detail and eloquence, this book has a very narrow perspective and target demographic. Some of the advice offered might be useful if one can manage to extract it, but the presentation is so heavily slanted to a specific point of view that it is difficult to translate if one is not the target audience. In particular, the way that women are talked about borders on objectifying, with the ability to talk to/date/have sex with women being a constant example and measurement of one's confidence.

Would not recommend, even to the young adult straight males to which this directed. Any nuggets of wisdom gleaned from it must be weighed against the narrow-sighted, ableist, machismo tone in which they are presented.

No complaints about the reader. He did fine with less than ideal material and the "funny" parts fell flat due to content, not delivery.

  • 総合評価
    3 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
  • Mr. E
  • 2019/11/10

Good advice, nothing revolutionary...

It's been a few months since I finished this on a 2 hour car trip, but my feelings haven't really changed on it. Manson's personal stories and anecdotes are engaging as always, but overall this book isn't as fulfilling as "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F###". What this book tells you isn't anything that most self-help people or pick-up artists haven't already. Stop being afraid of rejection, talk to more women, be confident, be sincere. If you want a shorter listen between the two books, pick this one. If you want a mind opening read like Manson's first book, wait for his third book if it's not out already.

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  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Amazon Customer
  • 2017/03/07

Wow

Bunch of 'woah' moments listening to this great narrator to, definitely going to listen again.

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Amazon Customer
  • 2017/01/19

This book was worth every penny!!

Love anything by Mark Manson. This was a great quick listen. I've already listened to the whole audiobook twice and the last chapter about 5 times. Would have bought it just for that chapter.

  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
  • Chris001
  • 2019/12/30

standard cliche pop psychology

layered with platitudes and made up anecdotes with no substance underneath. there's not much here that actually addresses confidence

  • 総合評価
    3 out of 5 stars
  • ナレーション
    3 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019/12/17

Meh

Only worth something if you are new to self development. Nothing groundbreaking or particularly funny. The subtle at of not giving a f* is way better.

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • 匿名
  • 2019/10/18

Could've listened to more, brilliant, funny, real!

Always easy listening, having deep concepts explained in a clear and relatable way with plenty of lightbulb and lol moments! I'm a true fan of Mr Manson. Narrator spot on, pace perfect, just never enough!

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019/10/17

Short and to the point..

Yet another great book from this author a bit shorter than his previous title but never the less another great read. A must buy.

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Carlos
  • 2019/07/17

love it

chapter 6 is life changing. the audiobook is really simple to understand. really helped me a lot

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Alexander White
  • 2018/04/24

Brilliant and Refreshing

I absolutely flew threw this book, the advice given wasn't your typical self help books on how to fake confidence and behave in certain ways. but by giving yourself standards and models to live by that suit you as a person. Heartily recommend

  • 総合評価
    2 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
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    2 out of 5 stars
  • pm
  • 2017/12/24

Boring and patronising

This was neither helpful nor entertaining. It may have been that the narrator sounded too preachy, making it worse. There are no new ideas here unless one has been living in a well and never been exposed to such concepts.

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Emileecvz
  • 2017/12/05

direct hit

worth the money. I'd pay £40 for this book. I was thinking "wubba lubba dub dub" and this brought me through to thinking "why"

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  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
  • Kelly
  • 2019/02/28

Apparently only young male adults are "Nerds"

Shallow and dictatorial. This book endeavours to tell you about everything you're doing wrong rather than providing a positive guide as to how to improve confidence.

  • 総合評価
    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
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    1 out of 5 stars
  • Anna Ware
  • 2018/03/27

A demeaning tone throughout

I could listen to half, the demeaning, arrogant tone with put downs and judgemental comments littered throughout left me baffled it could even be published. Do I even have to give 1 star?

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • 匿名
  • 2020/03/21

Excellent book

Typical Mark Manson. He really hits the nail on the head. You probably already know the facts but he just words it so well!

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
  • ナレーション
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Shirley Ndelaphi
  • 2019/07/18

Incredibly relatable

Of the very few books that I wish everyone on earth should read, this is definitely one of them. I'll be reading this every few months. Life changing knowledge. Well done Mark!

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • Dylan Crack
  • 2019/07/05

Great listen

A slap across the face with the reality of unhealthy thought patterns, why do these need 15 words, the best reviews are sometimes short

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • 匿名
  • 2019/06/01

Wow

Was expecting some generic, corny,pick up type,advice. But I decided to give it a go after reading “the subtle art...”. After hearing this short book, I might even go as far as saying this is even better than the subtle art. Some of the psychological and philosophical insights are nothing short of fantastic. Highly recommended

  • 総合評価
    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
  • 匿名
  • 2018/03/28

amazing book..

loved it.. its short, sharp and affective.. Love Mark Manson's work.. very helpful and eye opening.. on the same level as "models".

  • 総合評価
    4 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
  • Kindle Customer
  • 2017/10/10

some great insights

After reading several meditation books this book does a better job of getting to the message. Let down a bit by the teenage mentality of chasing girls

  • 総合評価
    4 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
  • 匿名
  • 2019/04/13

Ignore the hate

This book proved to be more useful and interesting than i was let on by reviews. Ignore the hate and give it a listen. It's worth it 👍

  • 総合評価
    4 out of 5 stars
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    5 out of 5 stars
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    4 out of 5 stars
  • 匿名
  • 2018/09/13

Short and to the poont.

Solid advice, Feel like some of this should be common sense, but ya know what they say about common sense.